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31 Days Unplugged – Day 4 – A Reflection

3 Mar


I have most of my posts for the month already written and scheduled so that I won’t be stressing about writing something every day, but I decided to change things around a bit and actually write tonight.  Today was difficult for me and I felt like I should share it with you. My goal, after all, is to help someone who may be struggling, and to do that I feel the need to talk about my own struggles.

For those who have been participating since the beginning, this was our 3rd day unplugged.  I have only been on social media at nighttime, and not for very long then.  Saturday and Sunday were pieces of cake, but we were really busy and were surrounded by people.

Today, however, was a different story.  Everyone went to work, leaving the kids and myself at home.  I am a stay-at-home-mom, so of course I don’t have a problem with that, but we were kind of stranded at the house today.  We were all tired from a busy weekend and the weather has been horrible, so we couldn’t even have anyone over.

Our day began really early, and I had a feeling it was going to be a tough one…and it was.  I had the urge SO many times to check on Facebook or Instagram really quickly, but I didn’t.  I was bored, tired of talking to the kids, and just…grumpy.  Normally when I am feeling like this, I would zone out online for a little while, but I couldn’t do that today.  When the sun finally set and I could log onto Facebook, I realized something-I had missed nothing.  Facebook really is a waste of time for me.

Instead of spending precious time on the Internet today, I got so much done around the house that I had been putting off.  The kids and I went through their toy boxes and cleaned out Maddie’s closet.  I ironed clothes for Jason, and the kids and I even watched a movie in the middle of the day.  It feels so good to have those things done, and I honestly wouldn’t have done them if I had been online.

Our nighttime routine has run much more smoothly tonight, and I don’t fell stressed out at all right now.

I see the point of unplugging, and I hope you do, too.  We need to pay attention to how we are spending our time. I am sharing this not to brag about what I accomplished today, but to tell you that it was hard for me today. Now I see that it was worth it, and I know that tomorrow will be easier.

No additional challenge today-just continue on with what we have started.


31 Days Unplugged – Day 2 – Let’s Live Abundantly

1 Mar


Well, we did it!  We went through one entire day, from sun-up to sun-down, without using social media.  I hope that you found it to be as uplifting as I did.  It is not easy, but spending that extra time with God made it worth it.  

I would love to hear about your experiences yesterday-please leave a comment below letting me know how yesterday went for you!

For today’s challenge, in addition to continuing without social media from sun-up to sundown, I would like for us all to memorize a piece of scripture that means so much to me when I feel tempted to give in and waste my precious, God-given time.


Abundant is defined as “present in great quantity, more than adequate, over-sufficient, well supplied, abounding, or richly supplied.”  I don’t know about you, but that is the kind of life I want!  I don’t want to be satisfied with an adequate or sufficient life, I want an abundant life!

…and God wants that for us, too.

All we have to do, guys, is stop giving in to the thief that is coming to destroy that abundant life.

Challenge #2    I challenge you to memorize John 10:10 today.  Write it down on post-its and put them around the house in places that catch your eye.  Be sure to put one of those post-its on your computer.  When you are tempted to quickly check Facebook or Twitter or Instagram, say this verse to yourself and imagine what God wants for you.  

Have a great, abundant day!

31 Days Unplugged-Day 1

28 Feb


Thank you for joining me today for the first day of my 31 Days Unplugged challenge!  Remember to grab the button to the side and add it to your blog if you are joining us for the challenge!

How much time do you waste on the Internet? I am not talking about checking e-mail for work or working on an online class or finding a recipe or anything like that.  I mean how much time do you waste on things that have no real benefit to your life? Time that could be better spent elsewhere?

Do you pick up your phone every time you walk past it to check the Facebook feed?  Do you spend more time trying to get the perfect picture of your kids for Instagram than you actually spend playing with your kids? Do you play Candy Crush at the dinner table?

Psalm 90:12 says, “Teach us to realize the brevity of life, so that we may grow in wisdom.”

Life is short, guys.  We need to spend it on things that matter.  God has a purpose for each of us, and we don’t need to get distracted from that purpose. Let’s reclaim that time that we are wasting and use it to fulfill our calling.

Challenge #1-From sun up to sun down, for the entire month of March, do not use Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter (or any other form of social media that you are feeling convicted about).  Instead, during the times when you would normally use these forms of social media, I ask you to pray.  When you think about picking up your cell phone or opening up the laptop, spend that time with God. These prayers may lost only a few seconds.  Ask God for strength and knowledge and peace, and for direction in how you spend this time that you are reclaiming. Pray for the other people that are joining you in this challenge, as well.

Good luck, everyone!

31 Days Unplugged-Let’s Do It!

26 Feb


I spend a lot of time on the internet.  I am addicted to Facebook, probably Instagram, too, and I love to read blogs.  I do have a Twitter account, but thankfully I can’t quite figure out how to use it, so I don’t spend too much time on that at this point.

Don’t judge me.  I am a stay-at-home mom, and I get bored sometimes.  I enjoy the adult interaction that the internet affords me.  Anyway, don’t act like you aren’t on Facebook all day, too.  I see you on there.

All jokes aside, though, I do recognize that this is a problem.  My children are growing up so fast, and I don’t want to waste a minute.   I don’t want to be crabby when they interrupt me when I am reading my “friend’s” latest rant or the funny meme someone just shared.  I want to be present in my life, not my “friend’s” made-up online life (let’s be honest, what we put out there is not who we really are).

Have you noticed all of the things circulating on Facebook and other forms of social media that are basically telling people to get off of the Internet and spend time with REAL people?

This one is fairly popular:

And here’s another:

There are tons of videos out there, urging us to cut down our time on the phone and computer.  There are inspirational blogs and quotes and pictures of kids being ignored by parents on cell phones.  Isn’t it ironic that the message to unplug is so prominent on social media?

The real question is this: when are we going to listen? How much of our life are we going to waste before we act? I say no more.

Ephesians 5: 16-17 says, “Make the most of every opportunity in these evil days. Don’t act thoughtlessly, but understand what the Lord wants you to do.”

Are we making the most of the time that God is giving us?  Are we neglecting the things that God has given us to do, so we can spend our precious minutes scrolling mindlessly through the newsfeed?

I truly believe that we are being distracted from the work that God intends us to do for Him, and it is time to do something about it.  

“For if you listen to the word and don’t obey, it is like glancing at your face in a mirror. You see yourself, walk away, and forget what you look like.  But if you look carefully into the perfect law that sets you free, and if you do what it says and don’t forget what you heard, then God will bless you for doing it.”   James 1:23-25

Let’s listen and obey.

Throughout the month of March, for 31 days, I am going to challenge you to unplug, to spend your time in your real life with your real people.  Every day I will have a new post on the topic of unplugging.  Sometimes it will be a new challenge for you, sometimes I will offer suggestions for things to do to fill up the time you will inevitably find, and on some days I will have guest bloggers sharing their stories of inspiration.

When I mentioned to a few friends and family members wheat I was planning, they pointed out the hypocrisy of my 31 Days Unplugged challenge.  I am trying to encourage people to read my blog so they can be encouraged to spend less time on the internet?  For that reason, I will keep most of my posts short and simple, and I will release them at 9:00 every night.  That way, you can spend only a few minutes reading my blog, and you can read it when it best fits into your schedule.

So let’s do it.

Join me on March 1st for the first day of 31 Days Unplugged, and your first challenge!

**Some housekeeping notes:  If you are joining me on this challenge, please grab my 31 Days Unplugged button and share it on your blog if you have one.  

I would love to hear from everyone about your experiences throughout the month!  Feel free to comment on Mommy in Bonlee’s Facebook page, or in the comments section of the blog.  I would love to hear from you and someone may be encouraged from your story.  Please remember that I will be participating in the challenge, also, so I may be slow getting back to you!

On March 31st I will be holding a link-up to share everyone’s stories of being unplugged, so please link-up your blog on that day!

My Fast from Facebook

29 Jul

Hi everyone!  I hope that your Monday has been a good one.  Ours has been excellent.

A few weeks ago our new pastor announced that we would be having an important meeting at our church tonight regarding our church’s vision for the future, and he asked that we spend the day fasting and praying.  At first I thought, “Fast?  I can’t go a day without eating!  And keep up with these kids?  I will faint from exhaustion.  No way!”  Then he went on to say that we could fast from anything that takes up a lot of our time or thought during the day.  I knew immediately what I would have to fast from: Facebook.

I didn’t really want to do it.  I tried to think of something else to fast from, but my mind kept coming back to Facebook.  So I did it.  And my life has been tremendously improved.  Here’s what I learned today:

1. My mornings are much more calm without Facebook.   Normally I grab my phone when I get out of bed in the morning and look at Facebook while I am brushing my teeth, making coffee, and feeding the animals.  It is very hard to do all of these things with a phone in my hand.  I like to answer any messages, comments, tags, etc. right away, and also get caught up on all of my night-owl friends statuses.

Really, who do I think I am, anyway?  I am a stay-at-home mom.  No one is sending me any super-important messages or tagging me in anything urgent.  The only people who I really am imperative to are Charlie and Maddie, who can’t write, and Jason, who  is laying next to me in bed in the mornings, so if there is anything important for him to tell me about the day he will just tell me.

As far as getting caught up on everyone’s statuses, I realized today that I just don’t care about what people post in the middle of the night.  It is usually pointless.

Without my phone in hand this morning, I had a great start to the day.  Time usually spent mindlessly scrolling through Facebook was spent in prayer, and it was wonderful.  It was peaceful and made me realize that those few quiet minutes alone in the morning are a gift from God, and I need to treat them as such.

2. I did not feel out of touch with the world.  I was expecting that I would feel out of touch all day, that I was missing out.  I was really surprised to find that I did not feel this way.  Instead, I felt liberated, like I was bucking a societal standard.  I did not know that I am such a rebel!

3. I really was a little out of touch.  I found out tonight when I finally checked my Facebook that I was actually a little out of touch!  I had a luncheon at my house today for the ladies in a Bible Study that I am a part of, and several of them had sent me messages about the luncheon.  Thankfully none of the messages were asking for directions, mostly just saying they would or would not make it.

This did make me realize that, while there are some bad sides to Facebook, there are also some good sides.  It is a wonderful means of communication.

4.  Facebook steals me from my family and my home.  It was very nice today to give my full attention to my children and my home.  I realized today that I am in a terrible habit of checking Facebook A LOT!  I do it while I am cleaning, while I am talking to Charlie and Maddie (isn’t that rude?), while we are eating (again, rude) and just A LOT!  This must stop, and it absolutely will.

5. Facebook steals me from God.  Following my pastor’s instructions, every time I thought about using Facebook, I prayed instead.  Guys, I have had such clarity and purpose today.  God has really spoken to me, and I fully understand that I felt his presence today because I purposefully chose to be in it.


I guess that everyone has their own personal “Facebook,” something that takes up a lot of their time or energy with no real outcome.  Something that just steals their joy and their life away.

I am not saying that I am going to quit using Facebook, because I do see it as an important tool. I love keeping up with far away friends and family. I love the political debates with my sister.  I can say, however, that it is going to become less of a fixture in my life.
Making the best use of the time, because the days are evil. Therefore do not be foolish, but understand what the will of the Lord is. Ephesians 5: 16-17


The Longest Winter

4 Apr

Am I the only one who feels like this winter is dragging on FOREVER?  I mean, we had a couple of days of gorgeous weather, with gorgeous sunshine and temps in the 60’s, then boom, this morning it was sleeting, yes, sleeting, at my house.  Are you serious?

This weather is the perfect reflection of the tone and mood of my life right now.  Last Friday afternoon (only a week ago tomorrow, although it feels like a lifetime) my 8-year old nephew, Sam, went to the Dr. to have an MRI of his brain to see why he was having some clumsiness and coordination problems.  Much to everyone’s surprise and dismay, a tumor was discovered on his brain and he and his family were instructed to go home to gather some things then go to Duke.  He had surgery to remove the tumor the next day and is currently still in the hospital recovering from the surgery.  This was found to be an aggressive tumor and little Sam will be undergoing a combo of chemo and radiation over the next 6 months.

Life, like nature seems to have done right now, has stood still for my family for the past week.  I think we’re all walking around as if we’re in a dream, just waiting to wake up.  We are leaning on our faith in God and believe that HE can and will heal Sam.  The outpouring of support from our community as well as strangers has been uplifting.  We started a Facebook page for Sam 2 days ago, and already it has almost 2500 followers. You are welcome to follow along on this journey with us at: http://www.facebook.com/PrayersForSamHolt.

Yesterday was a nice day, weather-wise.  It’s like Spring is trying to break through, but just can’t quite do it. The kids and I walked around outside for awhile and I took some pics with Instagram, which I am still trying to figure out.

I have always loved the blooms on my camilla bush.

I have always loved the blooms on my camilla bush.

Madster enjoying a few minutes outside.

Madster enjoying a few minutes outside.

Our Japanese Maple is starting to bloom.  I love seeing it outside our front door.

Our Japanese Maple is starting to bloom. I love seeing it outside our front door.


I know that this difficult, long winter will eventually end for my family, but right now it just seems like it never will.  Please keep Sam and all of us in your prayers.  We serve a mighty God who is in control of every season of our lives, and I know he has spring and summer planned right around the corner.

You Shouldn’t Yell During Uno!

22 Jan

Today has been quite a day!  We got off to a lazy start, so when Casey and Emma showed up at 11 to visit, I still had my robe on and Charlie and Maddie had just gotten out of the tub.  We had a great visit with Casey and Emma, though, and we got quite a bit of work done even with the distraction of a 1 year old, a 2 year old, and a 3 year old running around!


Isn't Emma precious?

Isn’t Emma precious?


We are working on some new tutus for Mommy in Bonlee and had Maddie model for us.  Charlie and Emma were so jealous, it was difficult to keep them out of the pictures!

Getting ready...

Getting ready…

I love the look on Maddie's face here!

I love the look on Maddie’s face here!

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...and a supermodel is born!

…and a supermodel is born!

If you like this tutu, you should check out our shop on Storenvy at http://mommyinbonlee.storenvy.com and also like us on Facebook!  This particular one isn’t listed yet, but there are plenty others!

Charlie had me cracking up tonight.  After dinner, we were having a friendly family game of UNO.  Charlie has never played before, and neither Jason nor I have played since we were children.  Jason and I were a bit overexcited, I guess.  We had not told Charlie the biggest rule of UNO: when a player has only one card remaining, they have to yell out “UNO” before the other players yell it out.  Well, when Charlie got down to one card, Jason and I both yelled at him, “UNO!”  Charlie said, “You shouldn’t yell.”  Then he busted out in tears!  It was so pitiful, but funny at the same time.

When that game was over, with Charlie being victorious because of his pitifulness, we played another game.  Jason won this one, and Charlie said, “I was supposed to win!” and started crying again!  He stuck that bottom lip out and just really put on a fit!  Jason and I were just about to die laughing.  I wish I had it on video, because it would have been a YouTube sensation!

Aren’t children funny?