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To She-Who-Shall-Not-Be-Named on Your 30th Birthday

20 Oct

Dear She-Who-Shall-Not-Be-Named,

Today is your 30th birthday.  I won’t tell everyone who this letter is for, since everyone believes that you are turning 28 and I don’t want to give away your secret (Plus, if you are turning 28, that means I am only 32, so your secret is safe with me.).

I just want to enlighten you on turning 30, since I am braving this unknown territory ahead of you.  There are a few things I have discovered since turning 30 that might make this transition a little easier for you.

1. In your 30’s, you will finally figure out “who you are.”  Isn’t this the elusive goal that we are always searching for?  Well, when you become a woman in your 30’s, you will finally know.  You will become comfortable with yourself and what you stand for and what you believe and what you are doing.

2.  In your 30’s, you will stop being scared.  You will gain courage as you move into your 30’s.  You will gain boldness to speak your mind and stand up for yourself. You will have to learn to watch your words so you don’t hurt the feelings of the girls in their 20″s.

3.  In your 30’s, you will stop caring about others’ opinion of you.  You won’t spend time worrying about what other people might be saying or thinking about you.  You will spend your time and energy taking care of your family, and you won’t mind (most of the time) that it will take all of your time and energy to do that.

4.  In your 30’s, you will learn how to take care of yourself. You will really come into your body and your beauty, and you will care about what you put into and onto your body. You will learn to love yourself.

And the best, most important thing I want to tell you:

5.  In your 30’s, you will understand that you are fearfully and wonderfully made by God, and you will grasp the fact that He loves you despite your faults.  This is a deep, beautiful understanding that some women never quite get, but I know that you will.

Now that you are 30, you will stop worrying about little things that don’t matter, and let me tell you, it is a liberating experience.

I pray for you that you will make the best of it, that you will realize God at work around you and join Him in His work.  I pray that you will be a woman who is courageous and dangerous, because that is what this world needs.

And I love you, girl.


A Day With Our Story Time Friends

22 Aug

Hello, everyone!  I hope you are all doing well.  Is everyone ready for the weekend?!

We have a busy, busy few days ahead of us, but I am really looking forward to them.  Tomorrow we are taking a road trip to Marbles Kids’ Museum in Raleigh, then Saturday we have a birthday party and a church pool party to attend, and then on Sunday we have our normal Sunday stuff.

Time is passing so quickly, but I am really looking forward to fall.  I am trying to speed it up a bit and invited our friends from story time over for a weenie roast after story time, but it was too hot to build a fire, so we ended up just cooking hotdogs on the stove! Maybe in a few weeks we can try again…

We had a great time anyway.  I am so thankful for the friends I have made at the library.  I began going to story time when Charlie was about 18 months old and I was about 7 months pregnant with Maddie.  I didn’t have many friends who had young children, and I definitely didn’t have any stay-at-home mom friends, so I started going to story time more for myself than for Charlie, and it has been such a blessing to me.

The women at story time are quite a mix!  We are different religions and races, we educate our children differently, we all have different backgrounds, and we are all from different places, but we are all moms of small kids and that is all that matters.  We just need each other!

Here are some pics of the kids playing this afternoon:

Emery is so sweet!

Emery is so sweet!

The Madster loves the big girl swing.

The Madster loves the big girl swing.

Kadeen-love that face!

Kadeen-love that face!

Idris started Kindergarten this week!  We will miss him!

Idris started Kindergarten this week! We will miss him!

Loxme is cute and tough!  She and Maddie are arch-rivals!

Loxme is cute and tough! She and Maddie are arch-rivals!

Evan showed Charlie how to use the new swing set!

Evan showed Charlie how to use the new swing set!

John and Chris.  We miss Emily, who also started Kindergarten this week.  Maddie just can't understand where she is.  She asks about her at least every 10 minutes!

John and Chris. We miss Emily, who also started Kindergarten this week. Maddie just can’t understand where she is. She asks about her at least every 10 minutes!

The boys playing with an albino tree frog.

The boys playing with an albino tree frog.

It is so great seeing all of the kids growing up together, and seeing all of us moms growing up together, too! Love those ladies!


Two people can accomplish more than twice as much as one; they get a better return for their labor. If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But people who are alone when they fall are in real trouble.    Ecclesiastes 4:9-10


Meeting new people……and fulfilling my civic duty

15 Jan

I had to report for jury duty this morning. I really did not want to go. I had gotten out of it a few months ago so I knew this day was coming. It’s not that I mind giving up a few hours of my life to sit around the Wake County courthouse. I just don’t like the idea of being responsible for someone else’s future. The idea of determining a person’s guilt made me a little nervous.
But this is not what I want to write about. I want to tell you all about this lady I met today in the Jury Lounge. Her name is Catherine. (I remember because that is Julie’s middle name.) She was probably in her early 70s. She was a feisty lady, born in the Bronx. She said that was when the Bronx was mostly farmland. (I can only imagine what that was like.) When Catherine was 19 she was hired to work as a flight attendant for Northwest. She talked about her job and the requirements. All flight attendants had to be a certain height and weight. They were required to participate in daily weigh-ins. If you gained a pound then you were grounded. Can you imagine??? She met a pilot who saw something special in her and asked her if she would be interested in going to flight school. She agreed and in the early 1960s she started flight school. She worked as a pilot for Northwest for over 15 years. During that time she got married and had one daughter. Her husband was also a pilot. He was in the military and died during the Vietnam War while she was pregnant with their daughter. She never remarried. She worked as a pilot and raised her daughter.
We need to spend more time talking to the older women in our lives. They have so many stories to tell. There are so many things for us to learn from them and these women won’t be around forever. If I didn’t have to rush off to daycare after being excused from jury duty I would have invited Catherine to go get a drink so I could hear the rest of her story. I know that she probably had a lot more to share………